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Forced Positivity Is Not The Jam

When I first began intentional alignment/mindset work I remember feeling some internal dissonance around what was being asked of me to believe and what I currently believed. It was a stretch. Here goes some of the beliefs: Everything is love. You are love. Everything is intentional. Everything is working in your favor. There’s no such thing as right or wrong. The world is a friendly place. Some of it was palpable and I integrated it with ease. Other beliefs plagued me at times, some were down right insulting (proof them shits were deeply embedded), and some created a deep feeling of sadness when they reflected to me my current stance. Truth be told I had experienced a profound spiritual moment months before I formally began the work and because of that I think I was able to buy in more. I felt the presence of love and knew, without a doubt, that love is all there is. There’s a difference between believing and knowing and what tripped me up was understanding the suffering of the world.. how could it all be love and racism exist? Sexism? Poverty? Abuse? On and on my brain tried to come to an understanding that honored everyone while still being firmly rooted in this expansive loving mindset.

It took me some time to learn the difference between being positive all the time versus doing the work to evolve my inner stance, or beliefs, about the world. It was easier to take the road of being positive than it was to truly unlearn and relearn. However, it’s necessary. Unavoidable. Eventually being positive just didn’t cut it and I was thrown into the ring for a deeper understanding and embodiment.

What do I mean by inner stance? They’re our truths; our fundamental beliefs about the world, how it works, and how it interacts with us. Do we believe things are happening for us or to us? Do we believe the world is a friendly place? It’s been helpful for me to think about it as my background programming. Seeing it this way allowed for software updates. It served me to pay attention to my natural response to the challenges of life. Was I hopeful and optimistic or was I complaining and feeling victimized?

Some truth: we live in a culture that teaches fear: the world is scary, it isn’t safe to trust people, it’s going to be hard and full of pain, etc. However, that is not the full truth about the Universe we live within. We live in a Universe that translates, vibrationally, to love. There is truly nothing but love here. If this seems hard to grasp think about nature. The loving intelligence that guides geese, the schools of fish, and the birth of spring, the stillness of winter, the currents of oceans, evolution for survival.

Just like nature that Intelligence is within us, too. It is desiring to guide us and wants nothing but the best for us. It’s our task to unlearn the beliefs that tell us life is not working in our favor and to adopt beliefs that remind us of this loving nature.

Think about how you would go through the world if you believed it was rigged in your favor. How would you interact with people if you believed everyone was your friend? What new depths would you experience if you trusted that every experience coming into your life was there to serve your evolution and growth? What risks would you take if you knew you could figure anything out (and was being supported to do so)?

Personally, this translated into living with a whole lot more fun. Life became lighter. Synchronicity and serendipity occurred with noticeable consistency. When problems arose, I found myself quickly moving through the heaviness of them and into the energy of opportunity. I would even go as far as saying life felt magical. It had a depth that forcing positivity did not. I smiled more. I saw love and felt love everywhere. And when I didn’t, I took it as a sign of my own growth. It literally feels like you’re always winning.

 

In addition to adopting general loving beliefs I’ve found it’s helpful to have go-to questions to ask myself to check in and see where I’m at. These are especially helpful when the shit hits the fan, when the real big triggers get activated. Here they are:

1.     What position am I taking?

2.     How do I see? What do I see from the position I’m taking?

3.     Where am I coming from?

4.     What position could I take that aligns more with love?

It really took me shifting my beliefs in order to unlock the flow that all of nature lives its life by. It’s not always easy to be the one who goes first. Deciding to view the world in a different way can isolate at times. Yet, once you take the leap and try this way of viewing the world for a little while you’ll never consider going back. Be intentional and create a life that loves you back, beginning with your beliefs.